Do we need a midlife overhaul?
The other week I posted a question on our closed group. This was how do you feel about being referred to as a Meno, and do you feel that it is right to be labelled as being in Mid Life?
Now I would say that the general consensus to this is a 50/50 split.
And of course, I supposed it depends on whether to see either term as derogatory!
My point will follow…
I am against being referred to as a Meno, and my reason is that I already have so many labels attached to me, Wife, Daughter, Mom, Sister, Employee, Friend etc, that adding another one is just unnecessary. You see I have always worked in Construction, and have therefore always battled with gender equality, and so I really don’t want to be treated any differently or labelled differently just because I am going through a transitional period in my life. I mean I wasn’t called a Puberton when I was going through Puberty so why do I need to be labelled now. Also, Midlife has changed, for me, it is no longer when you hit your mid-forties to fifty, it’s much later on in life.
My best friends point…
I have no idea what your issue is with being called a Meno. Because we are going through the Menopause and therefore we need something that we can call ourselves. And as far as being a mid-lifer, we are getting old you know, and I think that we should play to that. I do. If someone asks me to do something that may be a little tricky I will just turn it down and say I can’t I am getting old. Makes your life a whole lot easier you know, because you just get everyone else to do everything for you.
That is why I don’t get stressed and you do!
So who do you think is right, and are either of us?
Never apologise for being yourself
Okay, so I actually believe that we are both right. That’s because our thoughts and ideas are processed differently. This often occurs because of the way we have been raised along with maybe some of the difficulties and struggles we have endured throughout our lives.
However, I do believe that we should never feel as though we have to live up to the labels that society puts on us just to fall in line.
So if you are beginning to feel as though you are invisible and a little bit of a meno midlife who doesn’t want to conform any more, then here are a few tips as to what you can do to give yourself a little confidence boost.
Oh and by the way, the title of the photo above was
“Sad middle-aged woman sitting on a bed”
One of the best things a woman can do to give her that feel-good factor is to visit a good hairdresser.
Check out Pinterest for idea’s on length, style and colour. Maybe you have had the same style forever and you are a little tired of it. So take the plunge and get that mane sorted out.
Yes, I am going to suggest a visit to the dentist.
One of the first things that people notice is your smile, and all too often if we are not happy with our teeth we tend to hide behind our hands.
All this does is blocks our facial expressions and so prevents connections with others.
Go and get your boobs measured!
Okay, so when was the last time we checked if we are wearing the right size bra. When we got married, put on or lost a bit of weight.
Posture is so important because if you are standing up straight you will feel more confident. An ill-fitting bra will prevent this from happening. Not to mention the back pain that can come with wearing the wrong size bra. So go and get measured, and treat yourself to some nice matching underwear.
So now you have your hair, teeth and bra sorted what’s next. Well, I would suggest a girls day out, with a friend who is honest and will tell you if the outfits you are trying on enhance your features.
You want a friend who is encouraging and makes the dreaded shopping experience positive and fun.
So that you come away knowing that when you put on your new outfit you will feel confident and will stand tall.
It is always a good idea to have a clear out. And I don’t just mean those spices that have been sitting in your cupboard since 1987.
I mean the clothes, shoes, bags and make up that has been sitting there all of this time.
And especially look at the products you are putting on your face every morning and night. Are they really serving their purpose?
Does that 1970’s blue eye shadow still work as part of your make up routine? If not then bin it! Be really strict with yourself because you will feel much better for it.
Donate those clothes or sell them online to make a bit of extra cash for your new key pieces.
Get a couple of girlfriends around and have a fun night trying on your clothes and getting their opinions.
Whatever you do, do it because you are important. Nothing should be done for anyone else’s benefit. Whether that be starting a new exercise, changing your diet to a healthier one, getting your hair styled a different way, or just wearing something new. Only do it because it makes you feel confident x
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